Mouths dropped when Evelyn Lozada responded to Wendy Williams’ jab about her baby being a “cash register.” The old saying goes, “You shouldn’t throw stones if you live in a glass house” and Ev had every right to put her in her place. But should she? Did she do the right thing?
Should you stoop to a person’s level or take the high road? I don’t know, honestly, I’m torn.
I’m normally a fan of ignoring nonsense. I really do take all those sayings to heart, ya know, “take the high road the view is better” “never allow a person to pull you so low to hate them” and one of my favorites by George Foreman, “That’s my gift. I let that negativity roll off me like water off a duck’s back. If it’s not positive, I didn’t hear it. If you can overcome that, fights are easy.” Sticking to that can be hard, but as a celebrity do you have to?
We’ve seen lots of celebrities lose their cool and respond to a “confused fan”… Kim Kardashian, Rihanna and Tiny are a few of the more recent celebs that come to mind who have publicly addressed and attempted to embarrass a hater. But should they? Trust me, I understand wanting to let a person know that they can’t get away with saying whatever they want to you. But at what point are you really above the foolishness? In the cyber world we live in, people have access to say whatever and hide behind a computer screen or a user name. I call it keyboard courage. It’s a new standard for cyber-bullying that goes far beyond adolescence.
Follow any celebrity’s social media and you will see them being bombarded with negative comments. it really makes you wonder why people who hate them so much make such a point to not only follow them but actually comment about them too! Other fans usually chime in with the same question… As hard as it may be to take the high road, that’s what experts suggest. Doing anything else can actually make the situation worse. Imagine how a lowlife who bullies a celebrity is anyway… do you really want to give THAT person power over you? I laughed that a megastar like Rihanna would actually give a person a reaction. I guess she’s human, we all are… but giving another person, especially a stranger who doesn’t matter to you, that kind of power over you, makes them think they won.
But what Evelyn did, was a whole different ballgame… she didn’t retaliate against some stranger. This wasn’t a stranger who would never grace the same events or magazine covers. This was a “friend” of sorts, someone who she exchanged salutations with and even sent flowers to! When the walls came tumbling down of this “associate-ship”, Evelyn didn’t do the typical girl-fight, catty name calling. The mud that Evelyn threw can’t be washed away. She hit Wendy below the belt! Foul on the Play! Shots Fired!
Should she have responded to Wendy? Was bringing her husband’s indiscretions in it necessary? Or uncalled for? I’m torn, but the bigger question is, how does each person walk away? Sure Evelyn looks like she’s no nonsense… but does she look like the bigger person by hurting Wendy too? Who is the victim? Did Evelyn change the roles?
Don’t get me wrong, I am not a fan of Wendy Williams’ bullying… I think she needs to be put in her place, and I don’t blame nor fault Ev for doing it… Was it really what Wendy said or was it because Evelyn expected more from her? It’s difficult in the industry to figure out who’s a friend or a foe…a fan or a sneak disser. It seems that Wendy is a little of both, but she doesn’t seem to have boundaries. And at some point…enough is enough. It was clear that Evelyn was broken.
Maybe this will be a lesson to Wendy Williams…she;s certainly made her share of enemies. The comment Ev threw certainly caused some trouble in the Williams’ household that night. Maybe it made Wendy feel embarrassed, the same way she’s embarrassed so many other people throughout her career. While it’s easy for us to say whatever and assume that celebrity’s skin is thick enough to take it. As Wendy Williams now knows… it’s not. And with Wendy now being a part of mainstream media, not a shock jock…whose image is more tarnished?
The jury is out on whether Evelyn should’ve entertained Wendy’s comment at all… but she did. Now Wendy has to pick up the pieces, her pride and present her now embarrassed household as nothing ever happened…. In typical celebrity fashion. Wendy’s response will determine if the cat-fight ends or if the saga continues. There’s only one way to find out “Stay tuned!”
-Carrie B.